Opposites?

Good Monday Morning to my Friends and Followers!
   I am posting today after having a stressfilled week and emotional one too!  However, something that a good friend said to me yesterday is on my mind.....  We were talking about my food challenges over the years and she said that I need to examine my psyche and figure out why I want one thing but do the exact opposite to stop it from happening.... I told her that is the same thing I heard from a psychologist several years ago.... that I want love but I push people away....  Therefore I have been muddling this over and realize that someone else also said this same thing to me, not long ago.   I know I need to make changes, I know what I need to change, I even know how I have successfully made these changes in the past.... Now the trick is figuring out how to get them to stick and I think this is the key.  Changing my mindset, thoughts and actions entirely to live a whole new life....
As my Dad told me before he died (bless him),  the people who have lost weight and made it to their goal weight have a whole new life.  
I know I am fearful of change and have trouble facing it in the face but I also know that I am fearful of staying stuck in this same predicament day in and day out.  
I need to figure out the best way to work on me and balance my life.  
I know already that meditation is a part of the answer.  
If you would like to help me on my mission please feel free to comment on what has helped you change when you are very stuck with things that are known and actions that you have done all or most of your life...
Thanks and have an awesome day!